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Dating someone freshman year of college


I agree with the other answers saying that forbidding her from doing anything won't get you very far, but I do understand your concern. Set aside some time one day to discuss it with her, but keep in mind: she's not in trouble; you are just concerned about what may happen. Maybe go out on a lunch date or picnic, something nice that says, "I love you, so let's talk and spend some time together." She may not understand at her age that even a couple years can be drastic for teens in terms of mental development, maturity, experience, and what they want to spend their time doing. Just let her know that she's in charge of herself, but as her parent, you are in charge of feeling concern and making sure she's taken care of. If you're worried about the boy taking advantage or even just pressuring her to do anything she doesn't want to, make it very clear that you're open to any and all inquiries she may have. Also: under any circumstances whatsoever, when it comes to her body "no" means "no", and she is in control of what she does and doesn't do - not someone else's desires/requests. This way, she won't be so afraid to come to you if the need arises. It may not be fun to think about, but she may need some information that you don't want her to have as a parent, but she needs as a young adult. Keep in mind the alternative, and try to arm her with real knowledge, not the random stuff she can find on the internet or hear from her buddies at school. Personally, I think dating in high school isn't all bad (nerve-wrecking for the parents, yes, but not all bad). They're young and gaining experience in the world, learning about how people and relationships work. Just do what you, be her mother; be there for her, teach her what you know, and be her support. You can't be there physically for her all the time, but if you can start the discussion yourself, you'll be the voice that comes to mind when she needs to recall all you've taught her. :)


Dating someone freshman year of college

Dating someone freshman year of college